Truth will out!

I looked it up!  "Truth will out" comes from Shakespeare's The Merchant of Venice, according to http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/390200.html.  Basically, it means that the truth will not always be able to be hidden (even if it takes a LONG time).  Having gone through many court dates, miles of court paperwork, lawyers, and many other fun divorce experiences; I think my greatest piece of advice to give is to always tell the truth.  ALWAYS tell the truth.  I have found that truth is credibility, truth is lasting, and truth is real. 

I wish we could expect everyone to tell the truth.  I can't tell you how many times I've sat in a court room, listening to lies from the other side of the room.  It wouldn't be appropriate, but sometimes I have wanted to ask my ex and his lawyer to look me in the eye and then repeat what they just told the court.  However, as time has gone on, many of the lies have come to light.  Many of the truths have "out."  Lies in the courtroom and paperwork have been refuted in subsequent testimony.  Because when your story is false, it just won't match up.  Not forever.  And then you just hope and pray that the court takes into account the dozens of conflicting claims and stories.  That someone has got to realize, that after the other side has claimed I lied on a point, they eventually always end up proving what I said to be the truth.  Because the question then follows: If she has been right and told the truth about everything thus far, what else was she right about?

So, my friends in this awful world of divorce, make sure that at the end of your battle you can hold your head high.  That no matter what happens, you know you have told the truth.   

Hope

Today I want to say a couple of words about hope.  There are times while dealing with my divorce that I want to scream.  There are times that I have felt severely taken advantage of and trampled.  But, through all of this, things have tended to work out.  Situations that started out dire turned into blessings. 

So what is my point?   Simply that hope, and keeping our chins up is important.  I know that hope is tied infinitely to truth, faith and salvation. 

I send my heart out to those of you who are feeling similar frustrations in your divorce.  It is so easy to feel like the crap you are going through will never end.  But eventually it will, I HOPE.

-Dee

"You Can't Hurry Love"

Today I'm posting a feel-good song: "You Can't Hurry Love" by the Supremes.  Though I love the Dixie Chick cover from Runaway Bride.  This song is awesome, and so true!  It isn't a matter of IF you will find that right person, it is WHEN.  And if you are married, a happy marriage takes time as well.  Time and Effort. 

"Trust in time, no matter how long it takes!"

Supremes:

http://www.amazon.com/You-Cant-Hurry-Love/dp/B000VWMTOC

Runaway Bride (Dixie Chicks)

http://www.amazon.com/You-Cant-Hurry-Love/dp/B00137SYDO

FCC Deciding if They Should Allow Some Explicit Material on U.S. Television and Radio

Family Values Alert!  Apparently the FCC (the Federal Communications Commission) in the United States is considering relaxing it's treatement of some explicit material on television and radio.  Profanity, frontal female nudity, etc.  They are taking public comment until April 30th 2013, I believe. Go check it out. 

Straight from the FCC- http://transition.fcc.gov/Daily_Releases/Daily_Business/2013/db0401/DA-13-581A1.pdf

Snopes - http://www.snopes.com/politics/sexuality/fccban.asp

Yahoo News - http://news.yahoo.com/fcc-seeks-public-review-tv-radio-decency-policy-225421851.html


They just keep hacking away, splinter by splinter and sometimes branch by branch at our values.

What has helped you through your divorce?

This is a question for YOU!

What is it that has helped you through your divorce the most? 

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Self Worth and Divorce

I've seen a lot of divorced people who feel like their self worth is less than it used to be.  I'm sure that a lot of this is affected by the reasons for divorce.  For instance, if your ex was cheating or had an addiction or something.  And divorce itself is depressing.  But whatever the case, we need to remember that we are all unique, special, and that we all have something to contribute.  Just because someone else may have failed to recognise these things, doesn't mean that our self worth is at all diminished.

On http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/self-worth, I found this quote from Abraham Lincoln.

“It is difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself and claims kindred to the great God who made him.”
―  Abraham Lincoln