In my last post I went over planning out some different explanations of your divorce depending on who you are telling. For this next part I am going to give you some tips for the actual telling part.
1. Be sensitive.
You never know what the person you are telling is thinking. They may be having a hard time in their marriage, they may never have been exposed to divorce, who knows. Especially if they are having a rough marriage, the last thing they want to hear is how awesome your divorce is. Or maybe they were a child of divorced parents and they are very somber about the subject.
Divorce is inherently sad, even when necessary. Don't go off on some pro-divorce, anti-marriage kick. Whether or not you mean to, putting all marriage in a bad light is never good.
2. Be serious about it.
Getting divorced is a serious decision. You may be at the point where you have to laugh about it or else you'll cry, but everyone else is just finding out about it. If you go to them laughing, they may think you aren't taking it seriously. Even if that's true.
3. Don't feel like you HAVE to tell someone something just because they ask.
Some people may feel entitled to information. They are not. On that same note, this news will be jarring for some of your closer peeps. Be aware that they are going to need your help to make sense of it all.
4. Don't bad mouth your Ex.
Don't bad mouth your Ex. Note: telling the truth and bad mouthing are not the same thing. You can tell the truth and not call your ex names or put them down or whatever. Telling the truth= honest. Bad Mouthing = poor manners. Note: You may need to be careful what all you say for legal reasons.
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